Understanding is an Understatement

Understanding is an Understatement when

You understand your mother worrying about you the whole day but do not sit with her in dinner and talk to her or listen her heart out.

You understand your father displaying confidence inspite of his ageing worries or sickness fear and you do not offer your salary or financial help or emotional support to atleast make him smile and feel proud of his teachings.

You understand your colleague fighting depression but you do not lend them your sincere ears under the rising work pressure.

You understand a dog shivering in rain but do not help it with shelter.

You understand your partner needs your love and appreciation and you waste time and their love finding their faults.

You understand you should keep your health as priority and you ignore it against junk food and laziness.

You understand that your vote makes a difference but are ignorant and plan holiday on a voting day.

You understand that first step is all we need to take to lighten up the path but you are afraid thinking of all the road ahead rather than that first step.

You understand cleanliness is godliness but can’t help throwing that plastic wrapper/bag out of the car.

-I understand preaching is easier than practise but I end up on giving advices only.

P. S. I am also under the process of actually understanding the things.!

Empathy- Word and meaning diminishing to obsolescence.

Empathy is a strong emotion where a person connects with the other on the same situation, with same emotions, same pain, same experience. It is though commonly used when all this is even similar with another person. It has to be same and the word’s significance is the emotion behind the word.

We come across daily news of deaths, theft, murders, accidents, mishaps, rapes, kidnaps and possibly all forms of damage including fire, earthquakes, storms, cyclones,floods etc. and we feel bad or sorry, discuss on debates, news channels, news papers headlines and controversies, candle marches, government support, NGO support etc where people often claim that they are helping the sufferes out of sympathy or as they empathize with them. However I believe no one can empathize the other person in sorrow or their loss as no one knows his or her emotions behind the situation.

In today’s time, where we have no time understanding our partner’s feelings or that of our parent’s who need our time to discuss their age and changes they experience on getting older, we falsely claim that we empathize some other person who suffers from a damage which may be a common news for all but a once in a lifetime event (precisely a mishap) for that person.

Empathy should be declared an obsolete word as it has no prevalent meaning in today’s age. We hardly sympathise with people, left alone Empathize.

Tamed Elephants

In last few days, I was on a trip to Bangalore-Ooty-Conoor-Bandipur National Park. Had a great time and we, Me and my husband, were in a dire need of a break from our daily routine of a job in a bank, it’s stress of March end and monotonous life as a result of it. We love each other and wanted to be with each other for a while.. Just us. . Away from the hustle bustle of office, the politics (in office as well as in general.. We have elections going on PAN India).. .The trip was successful .. We had hired a car and travelled through roads.. It was fun indeed.. The last day we were at Madumalai National Park (Tiger reserve) near to Bandipur National Park.. We missed a chance of elephant safari but Got a chance to visit elephant camp. The camp visit was for 30 minutes only and I was imagining of how it would turn out.. Especially after a tiresome tiger safari in the morning at Bandipur National Park where we ended up watching deers, peacocks, mangoose, and wild pigs.

Well, we went to see the elephants and what i saw just surprised me of similarities of a tamed elephant with us (the people in job). There were 15 elephants. The elephants were lined up for display.. Mobile phones of all visitors were up in the air to capture a closeup pic with the giant animal.. Who stands tamed, chained, sad. It was its job.. To stand and entertain the visitors. The elephant were supposed to do their “job” quietly as we are expected… No demands. The mahavat – the person who trains elephants and can ride on them-beats the elephants on their forehead in order to train them, or punish them if they disobey. We people on the jobs face the same issue, we are supposed to quietly obey the instructions or else suffer the manager’s reactions (emotional or professional). One of the 15 elephants was a young lady elephant which seemed to be enjoying her own company .. She kept on waving her head throughout the 30 minutes that I watched her. She was the one of many people at our workplace who are in their character everytime.. Irrespective of the company rules (the deemed company rules).. So yaa I realised that it was an office place of those tamed elephants who spend each day the way we spend.. Boring, eager to get off, bound by the chains (chains of money, ambitions, status, EMIs, career struggle etc etc).

The fact which keeps me happy is that atleast we are given opportunity and time to choose a better lifestyle, better job, a choice to follow our dream even if it costs a lot but we have a choice and we should admit that it is our fear of losing present comfort that we don’t choose to deviate from our routine…

As my blog heading reads, lazy but inspired / inspired but lazy!!